Comments on: What’s a Male Mistress?

By: Tony Marcus

Tony Marcus — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 10:39:09 +0000

I find myself in the unusual situation of actually being a “male mistress”–I’m madly in love with a woman who is married, and who has declared she has no intention of leaving her husband. Unusual turnabout, maybe, but I’m so in love with her I cannot help myself.

Now I understand why women stay with married men despite their refusal to end their marriages…

By: Juci

Juci — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:39:13 +0000

How about cicisbeo? I think that old Italian term fits rather nicely as a male equivalent of a mistress. In fact it was common for a wife of the 18th- 19th century Italy to have a male mistress or cicisbeo, as des the husband having a mistress. The husband and the cicisbeo viewed each other as brothers, as the wife and mistress viewed each other as sisters. It was a status symbol for the wife and husband to have a cicisbeo and a mistress around. It meant that the husband could afford to spend money on such luxuries, both for himself and his wife.

By: fmen

fmen — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:40:19 +0000

I believe that system is dated.
I chase males ALL the time, in fact, women now are much more notorious to chase guys and yet we are still labeled as “whore,skank,slut”. It has nothing to do with victory.
Just ugly words men chose to belittle the opposite gender.
How are men expected to have more sex often when they create these words? Their sending the notion that a women having sex is wrong. Whereas if these words were lifted…they would probably have sex a lot more often and everyone would be happy. Basically it’s working against them. They should have more terms used for women who don’t have sex, “prude” isn’t used often enough.

By: Hyel

Hyel — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:43:25 +0000

I think the reason why most/almost all words for promiscuous women are derogatory and most words for promiscuous men are positive is related on one level to how the sexes court. Men chase, women resist, on the whole, therefore making the consummation a victory for the man and a defeat for the woman. I privately think there’s a tendency in most men to place less significance on the sex act and find it easier to get off with a stranger than most women do; women requiring more trust and a more skilled lover for there to be pleasure in the act, thus explaining the chase/resistance scenario. That’s gross generalisation, though, and I seriously doubt all this Men Are From Mars business. How much of that female resistance is actually related to the fact that the consummation of courtship is SEEN as the woman’s failure and the man’s victory? Round and round we go.

I’m thoroughly opposed to the term “slut” and all its variations. We should not have derogatory words for promiscuous people – male or especially female.

By: yeahfmen

yeahfmen — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 04:28:09 +0000

Scathe, Spore,Onus,SNORT? this is particularly hard, i can’t think of any ugly words.
snark?Lewd?