Me, Myself, and I
Just as the personal pronouns I and me are frequently used incorrectly–the subject form I used instead of the object form me, and vice versa–the reflexive pronoun myself sometimes crops up where I or me belong.
As personal pronouns, I and me stand in the place of nouns, while the reflexive pronouns like myself emphasize a noun or a pronoun that is already in use as a subject or object word. They are “mirror words” which reflect a word already expressed (hence the name “reflexive”).
The reflexive pronoun forms are:
Singular: myself, yourself, himself, herself, itself
Plural: ourselves, yourselves, and themselves
The forms “hisself,” “yourselfs,” “theirselfs” and similar variations are dialect forms.
The reflexive pronouns have two main uses:
1. They serve as the objects of verbs when the object is the same person or thing as the subject: I hurt myself. The baby saw herself in the mirror. We lost ourselves in the woods.
2. They are used to restate or emphasize another noun or pronoun in the sentence: The king himself signed the proclamation. These witnesses swear they saw it themselves.
The following constructions are incorrect:
Myself and the others attended the concert.
Jack and yourself are my best friends.
Editing for reflexive pronoun usage is easy. If the “self” word comes after the verb, you can see at a glance if it restates the subject. If the “self” word is anywhere else in the sentence, look to see if there is another noun or pronoun that it restates or emphasizes. If there is none, you probably need to use a personal pronoun instead of a reflexive one.
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Very useful tips for me like non-native speakers. Thanks for your efforts.
What’s interesting, though, is the usage and meaning of “your self” and the like. Unless I am gravely mistaken, “Drag your self over here” is correct, albeit somewhat obscure.
Mikael,
“Drag yourself over here” is correct because it is an imperative sentence, meaning that the implied subject of the sentence is “you” (as in “You, drag yourself over here”). So, it still follows the reflexive pronoun rule as mentioned in this blog entry.
“The reflexive pronoun forms are:”
This should be “The reflexive pronoun forms are the following:” or “A list of reflexive pronouns: ”
and
unless I am seriously mistaken, you should use “that” and not “which” in this sentence - “They are “mirror words” which reflect a word already expressed (hence the name “reflexive”).”
Tarah,
I know of no rule that precludes the use of “are” in your example.
As for “which” and “that,” the only rule I know of for their use is that “that” can stand for either a person or thing, while “which” is used only for things.
Please refer me to the sources on which your comments are based.
Thanks.
Hi, Maeve
Um, I believe in Grammar Girl. Which vs That and Colons.